lunes, 14 de junio de 2010

What is that 'Golden Trophey?'

So that is just what Isabel asked me some days ago.

"Mommy what is that 'golden trophey' that you have in the top of your closet?"

I knew sooner or later that she was going to ask what is that 'golden trophey' and the 'Golden trophey' is Ines' ashes. I got into the topic with her, I felt great of facing this topics with her as she feels the need of knowing.

Me: "Honey this golden trophey, as you call it, is a container that has ashes, and those ashes are what was left from our dear Inés".
isabel: "So, death people become ashes?" "So Ines' brain and heart are there too"
Me: "Yes, sooner or later all death become ashes or dust". "Yes, all her parts became ashes".
Isabel: "Can I hold it? Can I open it?
Me: "Yes, You can hold it, but you can't open it, it will remain closed for now.
Isabel: (Holds the 'golden trophey'and she kisses it) I love you Inés, you are my little sister forever, even if I have more little siblings. I miss you. Everyone is sad because you died. I am playing with the little bear we bought to you, I called her 'Morita' like the baby in the movie the 'Ice Age'. Thanks for sharing it, is good to share, mommy says that.
Me: (Sobbing and crying) Whenever you want to hold the 'Golden Trophey' let me know.
Isabel: Mommy, is Ines in her 'Golden Trophey' is going to live in the house of deaths (cementery or our church's crypts) like other deaths? Because I rather like that she remains here, with us, then I can talk to her often.
Me: Mommy feels that way too, so she will stay until we want something different.

Ok. No words. I cried. But I had mixed feelings. I felt sad because Isabel has to speak to her sister when her sister is already ashes. If Inés would rather live, off course Isabel could have played and enjoyed her so much. But also, I enjoy that Isabel expressed her thoughts and feelings and all around Ines is not a taboo topic.

I love both of my girls.

1 comentario:

  1. Isabel sounds so sweet and loving. What a good big sister she is.